Failing is a part of life. We all make mistakes and beating yourself up over them is pointless, however we do it anyway. It harms your productivity; you shy away from future challenges and it becomes all consuming. The more you obsess over past mistakes the less likely you are to forgive yourself, hereby eroding your motivation for change to work. It is unhealthy and can have a negative effect on your health. Self-analysis can help you to learn more about your inner motivation and can lead you to make positive changes that in turn provide better outcomes for success. Here is how to let go:
- Look at failures as learning opportunities. Take it as a chance to improve specific areas of your life that have challenges.
- Failure is feedback. It shows you what is working and not working. Become in tune with that knowledge and use it to prosper.
- Recognize that you are in control and that you can actively change the outcomes. You are not a passive participant, so own it and move on. It is you who are in control of you.
- Reevaluate your standards. Are they too high? Are you aiming for perfection? Make sure your goals are realistic. If not, make adjustments to your plan to help you succeed with your responsibilities.
- Do not wallow in pity for past mistakes. Stay away from melting into your phone or sitting and watching TV. Take action to change the root cause of your despair.
- Talk to a neutral outside source. Not to vent, but to take objective perspective from someone else. It may shed light on what you need to change or why you are wanting to self-punish.
- Failure is an opportunity to try again. Remember it is not how many times you fall, but how many times you get up. Be the best you can be and try try again!